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Do you think it's possible to be friends with an ex? (especially an ex who someone dated for 89% of college but now thinks they need to be free of since they're out of college and can't bear to be in a long-distance relationship?)

Anonymous

theoretically it’s possible

but why bother trying to be friends with someone with whom you have such a complicated history when there are millions of potential friends in the world

just a thought

@joshywinty :)

@joshywinty :)

How long does it usually take for you to reply?

Anonymous

I have 4 freelance jobs so it depends on how much work I have

I like to give considered replies to people, but sometimes the thoughtfulness loses out to the expediency / the expediency loses out to the thoughtfulness

Because I don’t get paid to answer people’s questions but I do get paid to do several other things

That being said I often prioritize people’s questions over real actual work that is due because I’m a sucker I guess

U know this is also why I frequently recommend therapy

Cuz there is a set of professionals who are paid to sit with u for an hour and talk about ur stuff

They have a responsibility to you; you can pay for more sessions or fire them ; and you can keep up an actual rapport

The only reason why I answer people’s questions is cuz they keep coming, and I want people to know they’re not alone

B/c I know what it feels like to be despondent

Where is Naila???? :(

Anonymous

I am her friend and she is doing fine :)

pootbot

Haha you’re thinking of a blockbuster, the majority of film projects that are being done in Hollywood are three to ten person crews that have $50-100 for food

I just can’t live on donuts

I try not to be bugged

But oh my God I am so bugged when a film shoot says “we are providing a meal” and that meal consists of two boxes of donuts

can I ask u a long question? it's probably kinda dumb but id just like to know what u think

Anonymous

Yea! Send me a private message w ur blog or a fanmail, I am very discreet

hi about catholicism: what is it?

Anonymous

É pau é pedra
É o fim do caminho
É um resto de toco
É um pouco sozinho

É um caco de vidro
É a vida é o sol
É a noite é a morte
É um laço é o anzol

É peroba do campo
É o nó da madeira
Caingá, Candeia
É o matita-pereira

É madeira de vento
Tombo da ribanceira
É um mistério profundo
É o queira ou não queira

É o vento ventando
É o fim da ladeira
É a viga é o vão
Festa da Cumeeira

É a chuva chovendo
É conversa ribeira
Das águas de março
É o fim da canseira

É o pé é o chão
É a marcha estradeira
Passarinho na mão
Pedra de atiradeira

É uma ave no céu
É uma ave no chão
É um regato é uma fonte
É um pedaço de pão

É o fundo do poço
É o fim do caminho
No rosto um desgosto
É um pouco sozinho

É um estrepe é um prego
É uma ponta é um ponto
É um pingo pingando
É uma conta é um conto

É um peixe é um gesto
É uma prata brilhando
É a luz da manhã
É o tijolo chegando

É a lenha é o dia
É o fim da picada
É a garrafa de cana
Estilhaço na estrada

É o projeto da casa
É o corpo na cama
É o carro enguiçado
É a lama é a lama

É um passo é uma ponte
É um sapo é uma rã
É um resto de mato
Na luz da manhã

São as águas de março
Fechando o verão
E a promessa de vida
No teu coração

É uma cobra é um pau
É João é José
É um espinho na mão
É um corte no pé

São as águas de março
Fechando o verão
É a promessa de vida
No teu coração

É pau é pedra
É o fim do caminho
É um resto de toco
É um pouco sozinho

É um passo é uma ponte
É um sapo é uma rã
É um belo horizonte
É uma febre terçã

São as águas de março
Fechando o verão
É a promessa de vida
No teu coração

i think a while ago someone asked you about resources and books for learning about feminism/racism/etc. (i hope it was you!! i'm sorry if it was not on this blog) and i saw on the blog newwavefeminism that they have a "feminism university" tag with a lot of different and useful resources and i thought i would share. thanks and sorry if i mixed up your blog w/ someone else's

Anonymous

Thank you for the tip!

Source: aloofshahbanou

like YES there are definitely passive liberals like HELLO i live in hollywood i am SURROUNDED by passive liberals but let’s not start missing the forest for the trees i guess

don’t reblog that i don’t want it to end up in friggin Leftist Debate land

i’m just bugged by leftists who

  1. use the term “liberals” against other leftists as like a knowing wink wink nudge nudge those are the bad ones who are messing up our revolutionary plans even though like who tf are you and what tf are you doing, and couldn’t one label anyone who is being inactive at any portion of the day a liberal, or even (as i’ve seen it levied) people who are literally just being warm or kind instead of talking about We Must Overthrow the blablabla in every conversation
  2. ignore when there are children and people with disabilities in a crowd and are like yes this now this is the point when we should strike these police who have armored vehicles and tear gas and projectiles ok

like can we please work on some priorities 

I feel really pretty, but I don't feel like it comes across in pictures very well. I would love to post a picture of myself that looks as beautiful as I feel (e.g. your pictures are always stunning). Do you have advice for capturing my beauty or overcoming my online shyness?

Anonymous

beauty is so subjective

a face is so subjective

what you “really” look like is what a friend sees when they spot you from across the room as you’re talking to someone else

a mirror paints you in light on a flat surface

a digital picture is a collection of flat squares, painting your face with tangrams

what you have to do is disassociate yourself from the picture, or at least, that’s what i have to do,

it’s just a collection of squares, shapes, colors

knowing that you can make any kind of portrait you would like

http://gowns.tumblr.com/post/71682884951/2013-inspirations-pt-1-january-sade
http://gowns.tumblr.com/post/71683884885/2013-inspirations-pt-2-me-w-t-benda-me
http://gowns.tumblr.com/post/71684820679/2013-inspirations-pt-3-me-selena-me
http://gowns.tumblr.com/post/71687919593/2013-how-are-you-not-yourself-what-we-will

there are always new angles to discover; there is makeup that looks great in real life but not so much on camera, and vice versa of course. a lot of contouring for instance looks fantastic using the front-facing camera, but can be too much for real life

you can download some cool phone apps like cymera or line camera and mess with the fliters and adjustments

http://gowns.tumblr.com/post/71123735565

and while you mess with it know that you are creating a character, or a certain presentation, an exhibit, for an audience,

while there is the ‘real you’

http://gowns.tumblr.com/post/71249226083

which will be something like that, though of course that is painted in squares as well

the you who is not aware of being observed

http://gowns.tumblr.com/post/92567447418/pictures-that-my-partner-took-of-me-when-i-wasnt

with no “active” performance

and i think that has a stunning beauty in itself