”I lost my best friend… everything I knew switched — switched in a night. And I couldn’t control that. It’s not easy to interpret on camera, not with the world watching. I felt like the only person they hate right now is him. It was a weird, confusing space to be in, because as angry as I was — as angry and hurt and betrayed — I just felt like he made that mistake because he needed help, and who’s going to help him? Nobody’s going to say he needs help, everybody’s going to say he’s a monster, without looking at the source. And I was more concerned about him. ” Rihanna talking about the incident with her ex-boyfriend Chris Brown.
i am so about the cycle of abuse and the hurt inside abusers and how to work towards fixing and rehabilitating, and the complexity of an abusive relationship; how it sneaks up on you; the immense pain of being on the receiving end, in which the physical pain is only the tip, signalling a deluge of questions about who is this person who you know/knew so well?, how can a person capable of being tender with you be capable of hurting you?, why does everyone on the outside think that you’ve betrayed yourself and your place?; the pain of the moment followed by the pain of the fallout, the isolation, the attachments, having to readjust your entire perspective, having to be increasingly careful. distrust builds but so does the feeling, empathy, flushing. monsters aren’t capable of hurting you like this. only another person could